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so what's been on my mind the title of this talk is does big mind care
my alternative titles
give big mind a chance
know why we don't trust big mind
syndication was all about big mind he talked about it all the time big mine put a mind true nature true self while pointing to the same thing we found this quote
once you're gonna have to come on

i thought about me for
they can see a little less clearly i'm sorry
well i become one with buddha one with everything that exists you find the true meaning of being when everything exists within your big mind on dualistic relationships drop away
for one time i my image of big men i try to connect it with his big mind that was like vast like the night sky silent and still fast emptiness know holiness
in i'm probably i did sometimes maybe
but nowadays i feel much more connected with a big mind that little bit more tuned towards what's happening with the kind of friendly respect and appreciation and tape tape listening
that's more that kind of big mind that i actually
can connect with
when whenever i on the other purchase later susan marvin and last summer she got her ladyship is lay interested with her to remember the rise and i asked her this question that there's a question a ceremonial kind of question and answer during the ceremony and i asked this question does big mine care
children while it holds everything
and that's what i'm talking about something that holds everything it holds everything and that's kind of part of a problem
because know
a bustling around when when someone cares about us kind of care more about us right
in a way that's how we know about care
that's bad for the kind of carrying it's hard to feel like big by cares about me if it cares about everything you know it just it's not that i can understand it but the following for humans it
is i know something different maybe the human realm
last spring another one of our heads students alan webb told us the story that has really stayed with me ah on her big can their vacation they were up in eastern washington the mountains somewhere by a lake and so every day that would go down to the laker every so often we would go down to the lake and
at first time when they arrived they got down there and was wasn't a spring and there were two on a gander and i remember seventeen for some reason southern town gosling's swimming along behind on the lake
and then the next day they went down to the lake and there were twelve gosling's swimming along the lake
and then the next day there were two gosling swimming around the lake
so much to say that there was an eagle said with or an eagle couple perhaps that was eating catching these gosling's and eating them to feed their england's right so does mine care more about the influence than about the goslings
or there's a care about them equally and does it fall like a cans of the available if it
how do we know kids you know it's but sir
hi tom
expand so in that role in that way the way we usually think of caring
so we humans have babies to and we care a lot about our babies are we have
cats so we have pet projects and we care a lot about them we can more about them than others so i mean it's thug in the nature was a waitress realm you know it's the person's job to care more about the goslings and the eagles job to care more about the glitz and that's nature's plan
and
what but something about seven shillings and we also have a natural partiality but the problem somehow the problem for humans else like it just quick it's sort of devolves into something really
dicey often
doing real hot so sojourn russia was reading from this ancient texts the central ming and the swine phase come my year because i've been thinking about this
picking and choosing never stays within bounds
and that's kind of what i'm talking about
for example when can have two kids
and what if you like one more than the other already it's wrong dicey
and then what if you don't want a lucky enough to not like one more than the other what if you like them both maximally
the first still kind of are watching you and they're like why did alex fits into stage door why did get to go to and are looking for the signs of love right and trying to figure out and you know teasing each other mom loves me more whatever
so
that's the around that were in the realm of partiality the realm of picking and choosing and in the rid of your kids have friends
no you can't pick your kids over your kids free to like and just quickly in this realm were picking and chasing goes pm on bounds
ah
i know when you're trying to keep it kid alive and the next minute you're trying to get him into college with by paying a lot of money and pretend that this men are a bonus point that they don't do i might have just but it's just it's was no run the tour will just it's a continual
this thing you know so
are six the pharmacy where am i here i gotta find my
when you're
what happens formal meals and the zendo we use these little said the bowls and it's very formal and one thing that will do in the ceremony as we have an offering we make an offering on a little train to the border we place for tray on the altar and when you're a headache when you're cooking when you're the head cook for that day you go
to make put together this little tray
and for me it's like the everything's kind of remote detonator and many are doing this train you just for a moment just a natural a moment when everything is just making a really nice tray for the border
it just happens naturally
and you know the point is not to get better and better at making a really nice trade for the buddha and mourn or ignoring the other people write the point is
oh this feels really good to be devoted to have this devotion i am that way it fails when i make this tray because i'm devoted so i mean if i had more beans i was devoted to i would for good more the time that's the following know and and so him grow
no to grow it out and never met around kids on to start with that your impartiality and then you need to grow it out grow it out to their friends and nieces or nephews and what you have kids you still have to do this you have to say you love them you can't leave a bear
because picking and choosing never stays within bounds i have to grow kept throwing it out of us is what it feels like to care
if i cared about more things i'd feel this way more at the time
so
where are the beings that i most need to turn towards with big mind most need to connect with big mind is it like all the really distressed suffering beings all over the world who need our help so much i mean they're really important
or is it our hometown where we feel more connected and we see people every day and we have you know a chance to really help people are those the birds
why is it our son or fellow sangha members who are so good at getting on our nerves and both the things when the not the first woman turn towards
the are sixth in infant ancestor raining said
sentient beings of my mind are numberless i vowed to save them all
i've got us my got is pretty much start with the sentient beings of our mind because those are the ones that are actually kind of getting in the way of the other ones often
so with so far a sentient beings of our minds means a holding them and not picking and choosing among them right so maybe i'm sitting zazen and i'm thinking i'm so bad it's essere
i'm so cold the answer maybe not been maybe i'm thinking i'm so mad at that person from october last night or last week and you know and there's this like arena subtle i think many of us have experienced this there's a very subtle difference between trying to replace that type of thing
king with my type of thinking
and actually just to be a rare and turn towards it
with friendly respect and appreciation
and when i do that you might find i find i often can't think oh yeah that makes sense that i'd be thinking that are feeling that given these conditions that are happening here right now that makes sense
it's not so hard will remember to do it it's really more about remembering to do it
so last thing it was a week ago we were in session
it difficult for shame because you know in the is bothering when i was worrying about it someone i was a kind of bothering me but i was like agitated about it
also my chance where it came over and and also i intercept said the chair it now and it's kind of hard to signature you know it actually is it's harder to keep a backup straight when you're sitting in the chair at least i find it harder it takes more effort
so i was like a channel around little
i'm thinking if i weren't sure i wouldn't have for most things you know and then i remembered all right so she is about this for sure
does about
with that being with you know for sure enough about learn a way to learn to hold what can't be held
whenever it is that's why we do that
so once a in i like right
just justice justice that's why i'm here to just go with this and respect what's happening at my body right now
and listen listen deeply listen to it
south africa said think mind is the mind which is working on small mind if there is no small mind there is no big mind i'm actually i that can have a little further than than i had been thinking the
there is no small mind that it was no big mind
i mean that's really something to ponder to me
it's like button belongs to the sentient beings and essential things belong to big mine sentient beings of our mind belonged to big mine sentient beings of the so-called outside world belong to big mind and big mine belongs
to sentient banks they belong together

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i'm not talking about i'm not talking about some kind of like idiot impartiality right
for example so like when the black lives matter movement started there was a fan people may be maybe just one person i don't know it was like
matter
oh that's kind of what i'm talking about like that kind of beds the impartiality but now not to me know it's like if they don't whitewash over what's happening right interesting word
don't
that's like a focus on to where will have this interesting to test statistic and the news that the you know at the harvard class thirty two percent of the people in the harvard class are either legacy students because their parents or grandparents went there
or donors that's almost half so they shouldn't i think the school should have said that a long time ago honestly because pointing out the partiality that speak that there is not the same as
picking and choosing right so anyway that's i'm not talking about this sort of
making everything the same
there's this line ends and cohen like it's not the you add to ducks legs will cut a cranes legs and have that be yeah
yeah no emptiness or something
so i never thought it's kind of hard to take about big mind is that it it actually can't do anything
may are the arms and legs of big mind way our the hands and eyes why are the voice box
that's how it's brought forth throw us
oh
they kingdom come thy will be done on earth as it isn't heaven right
i'm part of what it means that it can't do anything is that it can't keep bad things from happening and it couldn't keep bad things from happening to us when we were kids that can't keep bad things from happening in the world so like why trust that
what else there to trust their
he was something that
why can turn towards that still always available to us and and it holds us and it holds everything
seem so different you know to connect with that is to not connect with that because it can't do anything but still there's it makes a big difference to smokes a big difference
it sounds like plants and animals and rocks it just are always expressing big mind and they and i suppose there's some there must be in an ultimate fence everything that happens is an expression of big mine is big mind we're talking about by
family having perspective
i can either blanket or express it it will seem to be able to block it or express it
i don't know blocking it is is like picking and choosing and expressing it is like turning towards what's happening
no matter how you know turn towards a sentient beings of your mind no matter how low brow you know
i'm
turning towards what's happening with some friendly appreciation and respect and and tape the sewing

how does this is something that's hours available always available it seems like for me it seems like the biggest thing is to remember to to connect with it
i'm gonna have this never had this metaphor where it's like let the thoughts com and let them go but don't serve them tea you know that one
that's okay that's and some i'm sure that's fine for a lot of thoughts some thoughts are probably like let me go let me go
but then maybe there's some thoughts or feelings i wouldn't go seems to be something that
can happen or not in order to me like sometimes you can and sometimes you can
so i don't think that's exactly big mind anymore because mind is something that it's always available if you remembered to connect with it
so maybe some thoughts or feelings and mean maybe ninety
avanti maybe not a little more time
maybe they need to
a turn towards with friendly respect maybe they will respect for sure
an appreciation
until they're ready to let go otherwise strictly speaking went back to picking and choosing
right
so that's how it seems to me and i wondered when you guys thought
i'm not fat or about anything else i've said
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i was like more about what the thought wants
maybe it wants to go out the back door maybe it one meaningless want to come in your hands or back news your house has an aunt isn't you know it as a passage way to next to pay a yeah but may yeah so why not wait and see
yeah he's a big elaborate
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maybe you need a personal decision spend the night i mean you don't know who will do
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with us
reminds me of when he says that when upset between us or within ourselves the situation it is required for compassion and that's something when it's go haha
now
i'd like to explore
what they actually do in this
stay with each other
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the upset
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the practice with it makes me less powerful stuff
ah
he's talking about their like the return towards the sentient beings ever mine
because they're the easiest are the hardest you know i mean i mean isn't the practice practice on the sentient beings of your mind or oil they actually the ones that the only ones that you haven't gets really having a problem with and once you get those straight in all the others come naturally natural human compassion flowing
and yeah yeah that's kind of i mean all the just like fifteen is are constructed photo to give us a kind of leg up i'm a big mind really on how to connect with big mind made up that would seem like an and i mean a i was posted a hey we made
i'll always regret it but
i think so and how how do we do it is is really each a problem is each situation is more and fresh natasha of learning something from the past but that doesn't help that much i mean it's more about just can you connecting your so
south and what's getting triggered in myself why does this person you know why can i accept this person but a give flaws and foibles but i can accept this person than i and why is that that's something inside you know so i think it's a it over how it is a how thing like
how shouldn't how can i do this right now how should i deal with this right now it can
really
we also really helpful the metaphor of times with actually treat guess that comes to your house
i realized that the equality that the way i react
treat my thoughts a lot of it has the the troubling part the fact that doesn't feel good is what i treat them with the invest in this respect
ah
and you'd never treated us like that ah your house don't put your seat there
you really do treat them fact
curiosity
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because the same thing for other people you can
there's something about it that said that guess
so proud to be the concerns
ashleigh
and also if you can you know who could also see that point it's going now that that's have may also been in need to be held
i mean it's whatever is happening if you know you don't i am for you know it's really easy and the practice to be trying to let go of the raha
oh i'm so mad at them and that makes me such a bad person that's mean fundamentally who bled over my anger of them
we need to let go of i'm such a bad person or maybe not let go you know being with that be with them i'm so we've got sad and icon and wins

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the line
i think what i meant was
we have any idea that we're supposed to paper them over with big mind or replaced them with so-called big mind whatever that means that the royal big mind mr turner towards what's happening yes

that's a metaphor

mine are mine are like
my anger my fear
people there
that's a metaphor that yeah exactly it's stories but it's more than just a brilliant could be a story at recurring story or a belief about myself those are a lot of big brother important like you don't even realize that you have all these beliefs about
what you're capable of what you're not capable of him stories
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why they
the variety of thoughts in my mind or deriving an irritating situation means in practice for examples of
i have takes a crisis of faith in mine so seriously that when these any of them right in front of me i bought the that i might serve them tea ice a life of all a purpose for this one
once i don't invite he was repeated tv's i think ah you're here just to see of us you awake so and i send it away though the idea is faith and mine brings me to workout faith and mind brings me to experience eight and nine brings me to test and used to her
of that occurrence you've been advocated you to learn more how lenco itself and encompass or embrace these things that i here it's a ah
the album alderman i mean one question i have is are one way i experience it differently i mean that's really good thank you but once that kept coming around or actually maybe those are the ones that really need some attention because those are the stuck beliefs about you know
like this person makes me feel bad about myself this person makes me feel all these people will be feel better by myself it's not those people
it's a feeling it's a way i i'm used to feeling bad about myself a pattern of that as a bully and i believe that fuck not worth so once you have one that keeps recurring i'm not sure that the when you let go
the the i understand what you mean but i think i understand remember place go him saying that we can understand from our own experience
seeing that thought
now
now
or yes i know i've already talked about my mother you know
realized she explains okay haha again just because this guy from my home
on to these ones we can
allow me
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create a delusion and inflammation is one of us would be change your vision in front of us when we see the moment as big mine
i need to tell you when they're done i'm not sure i mean if problem it's probably a mix it's probably in the middle there somewhere and demand it's a metaphor live
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a separate key is not the day
how how they aren't moving on
the a kind of both and forebear kind of to bring up the fresh possibility right mike maybe i'm not just turning around in this thing maybe those fresh a fresh possibility here but they also are always
what you cognize on you know what they are always been employed through your cognitive apparatus so but still they're also bear in a different in another way you know that you can never get at
and i guess yourself our children your own sentient beings of your mind and everything you know
it's like that so i have lost track hip my computer and add than judy
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that holds up mind holds it all yeah big mind holds it all and that's really hard hard to take on
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so we're talking about mean
interdependency in this frame the you're talking about is is a good feeling a feeling of being connected and as interdependency is also vulnerability and doesn't have to feel good it could be
that were so we're so interdependent that were vulnerable to everybody and everything that happens and that sort of the other side so would neighbor are trying to create when you have a community when you try to create a community try to keep create a world that were interdependency feel good or is
you know for sale for us like you could let go into it feels like you could try it on you know and then you go out and try to keep
come
somehow knowing the truth of that even in other circumstances but you know it doesn't know i mean yeah i think it's both interdependency i think it's interesting that moreover we went to assume that word meant a good feeling about family together or something i don't assume that interdependent far as well
boys more control over the situation but you never had
but still i want to hold onto it
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witness and observe what words do you know how words make us feel differently i don't think there's a right enlightenment you know right to away i don't think and sometimes a new fresh way of talking about it like maybe it was fine at first to talk about them thoughts coming and going and don't serve them to amanda amanda problem with that before
i mean i wasn't as tuned in ten ones but no i mean that gets kinda tired and then you see the fly in it so you know vow and i mean for some reason right now respect is the thing on my mind that word the word that kind of turns it that makes me
how it helps me connect with big might but that's just right now so i think that part of what you were saying was were how words they came out become concepts which influence how you experience any malpractice or like and down totally

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yeah i kind of perfect kind of the million dollar question how i have this thing with my teacher steve weintraub that the
but i don't know form of our relationship or some is what is actually helpful you know
i think that well i'm i'm beginning to think about the recurring ones are the ones that actually need
more at attention and and
trying to start
what number on such a hurry not have a again if the goal oriented right it would be better if i had resolve this thing with my mom that's picking and choosing maybe remember better you know why why do you think so and why are you going with that you know like this is the thing that's coming up
and what is it telling me and what its purpose in i you could you could try to think that everything has is here with good intention every part has a good intention
and and it's getting to know it enough to help it transform
maybe
when i was getting into the psychological now

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ha and have been my uncle herbert hoover i'm gonna say something different you know
but of course there's a school know then we can we can go to some really intense places that we didn't go to at all today about that but
i think it's sort of like don't try this at home or so
a something along those lines
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