Don't Slam the Door

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it's my privilege this morning to introduce us economy lost love
who the star my name is stacey cats silverado which means
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ross began practicing law
eighteen apr
bernie glassman and came out here to berkeley and nineteen eighty seven and he was a late ordained that same year and has been a resident and here at berkeley center that are ever since that year
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you survive

welcome family

since i was you so in ninety six i've been given the privilege of giving talks from time to time that once a year on a saturday
so there's a lot of weight
on me and wanting to self imposed wait on me to give a talk that's worthwhile that's helpful and encouraging
and i hope that today's talk is so
and if it's not please let me know
when i think about giving a talk
i began thinking about what is important to me
and i write down little notes to myself and things come up when i read or from talking with someone and i can fully put something together
and then the last day or so before giving the talk i look over all these things and
think about what was was still relevant and what is no longer relevant or interest in to satisfied and then put together something
so the tale of i talked today is don't slam the door
i came up with his title and theme because it's on the threat close to me
for some reason i am very sensitive about
there were slamming
and handling of doors
my mother told me as a child he's got around closing the doors in the cupboard that were had been left company
i'm already have something
that goes way way back

so
without my started thinking about well what is the door wide as slamming a door upset me were startled me and if that some unusual i don't think but then either well
how would it be for a talk you think it is a stretch the definitive back to talk about doors
and then
well
let's find out together

suzuki where she said do not treat things as objects
surgery she says use two hands with handling objects handling them carefully so typically believe come to the zendo and we opened the door and close the door we typically do with two hands and our attention is on the door and we close it is
quietly as we can
as you may have heard over the years sometimes it's a little louder than other times i'm generally the teaching is using two hands and take care of the door of the door

so why do we close this door to open the store differently than the doors in our homes in our offices
what's so special about this store
is located closest or handle this story in a way or relate to stornoway differently than the doors that we have a to pass through in our homes and offices

the sense of quiet
provide spaciousness
release it quietly the room expanse and our consciousness expanse
whenever there's a door slam the space shrinks and we shrink often with that
sergio she encourages us to sit upright and agreed lifting up our spine or sternum and you can feel the space in between your vertebrae
typically done in a quiet fashion

with the openness of stations of this moment we can hear cellphone go off
and be perturbed by
because it is open the for spaciousness it's just as sound of a cell phone

suzuka she says that when you sit zazen you're breathing in breathing out lubricates the hinges like a door swinging back and forth
so we sit quietly we breathed in taking the external world into our bodies
you breathe that you let go of this world
and release it
what's the door and than just a barrier between self and other
next time you make tea look at your teapot
look at the lid like a door
left after teapot lid
but the t and site
without water in
closed door let it steep
pour the tea into your cup
the inside and outside of come together just as simple act of making tea

such a rush is
often said our practices like a bamboo to were very wiggly the beginning we pass this bamboo tube
and come out the other side a little less quickly
the maybe we're conscious of our wiggle
that's a doorway
in a metaphor of a bamboo tube

in traditional tea houses as fc no door
the samurai back in the day would have to leave your sword outside of face because i wouldn't pass through the doorway to believe their worldly attachments and their identity behind outside and go inside a t grow similar to time met and have a cuppa tea
if you don't pass through the door they don't get a chance to look at themselves

so what is that door
typically we go through a door we're going for one room to another don't pay much attention to it going from here to there
present to one opens up and you can see yourself
might recall some a great paintings for this like a doorway and there's a be there are a body of water or a brick wall or something kind of unusual not another room or a vista
but we passed through the doors here we sit facing wall where if they get to face herself
at a different kind a door

sochi russia encourages students to have a text some reference that's been
ah does he tried and true that part of our practice and people you may be easily recognized as a way to help frame top so it's not just this
ha ha
casual flip this but i think about life and practice and ketika on from there without reference points
so i looked at my library and started thinking about what what books could i use to
quote from what ancient masters from a from china japan or india could i use to talk about doors
well the life that suzuki roshi caught out of there are any
and
and that quite ready to write the book on a door practice but i thought well what about the precepts
how did the precepts relate to this a practice of
doris and going from one space to another
so i looked at the ten great precepts
and there's different rendering for those precepts in different understandings of what what's that
and a in the the old school of buddhism the terabyte of school is a literal translation a literal rendering of the precepts of do like domain shall kill anything do not steal we don't know if ever take anything
ah
get up if your sexuality in some of the practice i thought well it is a way of looking at these precepts in a is mahayana way things are not so literal and metaphorical that can help support a
my idea and the desire to encourage people not to slam the door
so with any further ado
care the ten precepts
rendered
the second of march
two thousand and thirteen

i found not to kill
luckily life the buddhist seed grows transmit the life of buddha and do not kill

so the wood from the tree that made these doors
came from a tree that was fallen in a forest it had life and it was killed maybe not specifically for the use of as door but it a rendered into timber
you can't kill anything things just transform
so the artists and craftsmen who searching roshi had make these stores transform this so-called dead tree into a beautiful life
a three doors double door therein and the central store
we passed the so quickly it quite often see the beauty of that door
so i encourage everybody to take a moment now that you're going up necessarily can take about our yeah to hear
to look at the door as the days go by and you can preserve it
the death of a tree comes a life of a door
and i'm why he had to support the artists and crest who made that door
i vowed not to take what is not given self and objects are such to yet one
don't take the door for granted
he steals the integrity of the door
you in a door or one
treated as such the gate of your liberation stands open

i vowed not to misuse sexuality
let the three wheels of self objects had actually be pure with nothing to desire one goes along together with the buddha's
the michael action of handling the door
his pure
without desire
just opening the door he
if you have an attachment to get somewhere
rushing to go somewhere

that expressing desire and that's industries of sexuality
ten your senses
sergio she said that he never saw suzuki roshi rushing around he was always in time
can we can set i caught myself
rushing to get into the zendo having heard the coppers and try to get to my seat before the bell rings

i vow to refrain from false speech the dharma wheel turns from beginning there is neither surplus near lack the sweet to fetch rates all and harvest the truth

how they fit or other there's really no rush there's no surplus no lack
he just be in time
the truth speech of the door is violet
silently close the door
i vowed not to sell the wine of delusion originally pure a to file this is a great awareness
how do we take care the door to help maintain its purity

show respect for the door
the intention of the person who created in stores

the original showed the paper on the doors had worn out along the wooden lattice when as over the years people get a dusting the lies the paper starts wearing so many years ago during machine i was asked to replace the the paper
and i cannot tell you how much attention i had to give myself
as i moved around a very delicate thing of this door to change their paper with little nerve wracking was hearing nerve fracking action
but over time it that the job got done and and done at once i think since them
you look at something really close that you think it's pure there's actually so-called impurity mixed in with it these are not so perfect angel off a little bit
and there's actually a beauty of that imperfection
that exudes a a certain purity as result you get to see that it's made by a person
who has a moment of distraction or moments of imperfection and we get to see the door as we get to see ourselves in the mirror
or think ourselves facing along
and a pure expression of buddha with all these impurities and these false
i vowed not to slander in the buddha dharma go together appreciate realize in actualized together no fault finding know how has your talk do that corrupt away
not corrupt a space that the store is holding
we come to the though be opened the door
and we step into his face
hey where are so called good behavior
we tried to be more careful about what we say our physical comportment walking on the balls of our feet vs their heels we don't rush around to maintainer attitude of quiet and respect
the door is holding this space for us
and we go after about a social roshi and we bail out and go outside for we carry that with us
the door swings both ways

i vowed not to pray self at the expense of others
buddhists and ancestors realize the vast sky and the great earth when they manifest and nobody there is either inside or outside and emptiness nor a bit of earth on the ground
in my more important than that door

who is as soft as praising think that i'm number one and these other things are just out there

do you meet the door as your friend
whereas an impediment i gotta get through their ticket get to the center
i it through that door to get to the broken bone hand basket
actually caught myself there are a lot
that world is automatically i'm still rushing to get to the handbasket with the russian pass through the outside to the inside do my shopping

i vow not to be avaricious one phrase one verse is the ten thousand things and one hundred grasses one dharma one realization is all buddhas and ancestors from the beginning there has been no stinginess at all
be generous
don't be stingy
don't you think you with your time rushing to your seat there's time their space
to move through it gently

hold the door for another
he kind be generous don't be stingy
i vowed not to harbor yale will neither negative nor positive either real or unreal there is an ocean of illuminated clouds and an ocean of ornamented clouds

anger in it it attention are manifest in a flam door
or hastily thrown bolt across the door into the door jamb

as and teachers say that they can actually assess a student's practice
people before that students uttered a word just by watching their comportment how they handle things
study is good articulation and understanding is good
this body half ago to good vehicle from practice the door helps reminder for that

i vowed not to abuse the three treasures to expel the dharma with his body is foremost virtually turns to the unfathomable ocean of reality let us accept it with respect and gratitude
gratitude for the three treasures
buddha dharma and sangha
someone asked another student ones who is your teacher and student said or right now you are my teacher
right now the doors my teacher
how do i need it how do i pass through it
dharma his teachings
while the teaching of the doors have to provide us to help us with our lives
at saga
we all get to go to the same door together we all have seen that door over there
everybody passes said door differently
there's no right way or wrong way
i just being aware of passing through
from the so-called sacred the so-called profane
life is gonna turn on that

thank you for your attention
in the quiet
and we have a bot fifteen minutes or
a little commentary question a response
i ever did dinner to prepare this afternoon for some dear friends who are coming over and haven't seemed long time so i'm gonna have to forgo the formal given a the in the back there so we have some time now
and i as such a ship he has any commenter most investors have targeted and talking about course it's a great picture list of baby
like about that crystal most famous blogger them is the case
to move on
kate with states which is done
but you can stumble into
pass pass through
but then is also anyone have a long couple years awesome story you shake your booty
straddling the threshold moved over there is this coming or just going
there's another one like effort
the
the
encourage you to keep switching
the story of tourists isn't as are rather than if i could don't
incursions of
next year when i give a talk allah picked up by others
walter
as same question than tax related question of certain jason
no i was gonna say why is the great door doorless
why is a great door doorless
because there is a great person passing through ralph
because there's a great person passing through
i think pick your us arms i just want to say that
he's a person in your road you are sometimes
given to making corrections of people and made them at me but i want to say whenever you've made them it's never felt to me as if you slam the door i mean it's always felt as a very gentle suggestion and i have all the time to admire that new for a long time now try to emulate them
price i can
the driver next thank you it's a yeah it's a
it's a heavy responsibility that sojourn has bestowed upon at myself in a few others to offer offer guidance and correction about the forms we we can deploy a heavy
and i appreciate the feedback that it's mostly gentle
kelly and i think we share a lot and one thing the shares this door practice i have the same sort of relationship with the sounds of doors and think about them a lot and during your talk i kept thinking of all kinds of things outdoors i'm an amazing and they share is that
it just this week you know we have a practice at our house of closing the grudge for every night and ten building that oil goes into the house of one night this week we haven't exactly solved the mystery but the quite sure didn't get closed and i went out in the morning to go do something and input
campus in the green van and the question or standing wide open and i just felt a million things all at once i can completely terrified for one thing and then like nothing happened nothing was gone net not a single bike not a single record as and
it reminded me when i was in college i went time and i the one time i went to a grateful dead concert and we left the car keys in the car door
there might have been a little altered state of my
and no no one took in a thing of my computer isn't that the sun and i just i like sharing on the good news sometimes because there's so much fear random bad news out there that i wanted to show that the news about that door standing wide open and no one going through it
hey thank you ah
i am
have you were talking i was reminded of a took us up with such energy
a
nothing that said that they the compartment of of body going in and going out of da you don't go in return the door after hearing the bell we turn the doorknob we we opened the door we go in he closed the door
to search roshi thousand feet away sit down and ever are talk and then we do it in reverse when it's over
and when we go out is that it has pushed the door we turn the doorknob and close the door and in the turn it back and ago the torn up it's a really different experience than close the door at five for the noise factor
it's meeting the door opening in the door closing its pizza
ah
thinking of a walters talk yesterday with less of a question and he basically the response was it's all right here you have to go anywhere do anything it's all here for you to learn by trafficking well it's all right here doors here just being aware
i can't
as a kind of related
i've always been through
valve which is don't
and it's actually
practically the same thing you know it has to do with cars and song
it's been paying attention to doing things well it's one thing at a time but in time in time yeah and have faced between you and the executive
rushing and then you're in constant stress and only your dating one second or something it's because it's ridiculous and yes we do that and the same thing with the door we're we're thinking one second and gadget and so we slammed the door and with yeah instead of doing one thing
then going on the next day
this true yeah you don't have to be in a car in the in a kid line in such a machine encourages us to you know step forward and fill the spaces and be aware that the people behind you and don't go too slow so are you know we're always on on fat for attending to the space around us
peter
whole time you're talking on can thank you about for bows which voters say thoroughly one of which is a from jason endless i found not to slam the photographs crickets
i realize you have been talking about
handy
hi judy
top i the the door that i found myself suddenly into alive
he says the door of compassion and had to keep that door open and when that door opener she needs to shut
and i got this shoulder injury and a new to driving cars so much especially in this area and especially in rush hour traffic
it just the physical way of actually trying to open a door when really i love to use two hands but it's a lot of meaning of one arm or leg just to do the basic things
and am
i also have this image and and talked a lot about sports and just i remember the thrill of like especially the beginning of the season you may walk into a ballpark is just as oz fresh or permeate the sports page now and they're talking about how
tim cut his hair instead of sign of maturity
harrington staff hey baby
save on sure and i'm wondering what
you keep your compassion
a on sale and and answer

there was a tedtalk that i heard
and this fellow closest talk
relating a story about someone about a mother who was admonishing her children
ah
on a train going to
a death camp and
the children and or another
love your shoes
and the mother was very adamant and angry that the child and loss issues
and the parent and child for
separated and the parent never solve their children again
and many years later the parent with us about
you forgot the context but the just that it was
that
yeah this is a thing that you say
will you be proud of it
will stand the test of time
so if i get stingy with my time or close down around them
someone or something and not feeling so compassionate
i think about
is this how would it be if this is my last breath is how i will be remembered by by this person or by people viewing of behavior and mine
when they might not be aware of it but it can change me in the opening up a little bit more
and
i will never forget someone practices here and that was a very very very difficult time with them and with kind of shutting them in my own mind and avoiding them in my own body
and we're it's the shade and
course is either during a shame because you have to talk about it here and get them right and i came out as zendo and they were bent down a gardening and it is what by an i my arm up elegantly grace over their shoulder as i walked by to connect with them
and that's really is at the evidence and in power of of different ago
in being a being in a space
because as much as i tried to want to be compassionate and be opens i can you know with fittest
that happens between people
but thinking about this last saw that i'm going to have before i die
now is that are interesting thoughts f
ah ah
there were it seems to work for me thank you
we have fewer minutes katie
yeah
ha ha
i find that sometimes
for fact i'm at recess
or some other
way if sometimes that he getting says how i should eat and it's written and narrow
the yeah
i think that's what you're talking about don't slam the door
that's not have older who wanted to me
transform that

don't treat things is objects
i think it really is that simple
i think it really is that simple
and know what it feels like when i've been identified it doesn't feel good
and i know when objectified people disappear get
it's a really simple teaching but i think it it answer so much
my pick a good thing of it other door
for somebody else's make sure their cars spinning create a for ah
i think it's good to look at a little at the literal
rendering of those precepts as a way to go through the bamboo tube and as we said we realize that it's impossible not to kill the boss will not to steal
but to be with a more generous with ourselves and we actually get to see it in a in a wider context
can encourage have took effect with the joshi to italy's or what we to these these questions that you have
the perfect huge mind as he was seeking is don't treat anything as an object including yourself
sometimes i can be try and towards myself or in an attempt to
be correct right yeah fortunately or unfortunately i don't have that particular i'm really easy with myself to you might say all too easy though the slacker but there are a lot of people had advent is and centers who are part of themselves
and have all these guidelines and rules and precepts and all that if i for the a it can feed something that can really be
discouraging to practice so
to a to be a little loose around that and forgiving of oneself
is it is really important
so
as you forgive others and forgiving yourself
ah
i were watching my parents should listen to my parents argue a lot as a kid growing up and even a later years but when my when my father stumbled
the phone call to virginia my father had stumbled my mother put down the phone and it was his whole other voice coming out that i could hear on the phone as she was helping my dad up from the from the floor that he fought on
and i am rarely heard that expression
and is kind of like it is person in front of me is is die or his father and my going to cut the same attitude or of i'm falling and i'm going to cabinet to to myself to be hard on myself you took we have to pick ourselves up and support each other
that's the beauty of soccer practice
the video going through the door altogether
know eighty some people going to go through that door of it
couple people are going through that door and we all meet out and have tea
let's go do that
the