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so it sam sometimes i said
since then at the disease and mind
is to set one mind against another mind

we talked a little bit about this this afternoon and my mind that
i was kind with head above your head he likes to tell you are to do you have to he shared
and then of course there's another minute and since are you telling me once a year
sarah the zen master haku and
wrote a little poem about this one time that i would share our gwen's palm my to
your haku and was an instant most famous japanese and teacher at the last five hundred years or so
you know his said your head while six major enlightenment and eighteen in the ones
i don't know how you keep can his next film
i'll take their word for it
and yet here you know plan
raiders liked it alot of calligraphy and arjun pictures them mean it isn't little palms
said this is where the pound as a demon outside pushes at the door the demon inside holds it fast
a push and push against each other
sweat point from head to toe a battle on alter the night concert last in the morning light laughter fills the air a were friends from the standard
you understand

add the demon inside pushes at the door and the game and outside person that the during the demon inside holds it fast
a battle pushing against each other
how through the night sled pine from head to toe in battle i'll do the night until last
in the morning light laughter fills the air they were friends from the start
sarah this is a simple way to talk about what we're spending
no we have we get these ideas that there some barnabas or aspect of necessary
it needs to be straightened out again whenever shaped apple shipped out and one part and one nine decides i've gotta get rid of i need to get rid of my thinking
i need to get rid of my anger
and in order to get rid of anger i'm going to get really angry at my anger
that'll teach teacher

sarah can spend in no time with his characters
friday it had you might have some i realized they were friends and start

as as zen master dogan says a do not i think with ordinary mine do not stated with ordinary eyes

this isn't to say no we need one moment and see what to do with that
if you think this moment is not worth it i wait for the next one
when you read for the next one
and it used to waiting you may wait a lot of moments and wonder right and things keep happening like this

as the security
no president said
do you think
but i am the teacher and you are the student and i had things to tell you that you don't know
that's a mistake
you think that if you listen to me carefully i will give you some special information that will really help you
that is wrong thinking
sometimes the teacher is a student sometimes the student is the teacher

sometimes and in the teacher bows to the student the student bears to the teacher

and then he got up in independent state and started hitting heavy run bap bap her against the teacher rap rap who is the student bad
up
and this is to say now that and i'm only here to introduce you to the teacher in jail
this is not an ordinary thinking
i know thinking and you think oh i don't know the teacher knows

but you know yourself rights much better than i do
we all studied things differently
rick here on earth for different reasons
in certain sense no different kinds of reasons

some of us are here to and
no develop developer communication skills or cinema as i have more creativity
we know dipping aspects of how to be responsible
you know how to
a charge of things as it's needed
some of us have no more passing a less passion and passion for different things

and one time
i will say green gulch i was the head resident teacher
it was nineteen eighty five
her any six
i'm the teacher according to be
i'm you know attorneys
and then seventy students think of near the teacher seminal doubt
so one time had gotta get version came to visit

and there is that we all had thirty years or thirty has had tea with him
and he said after we sipped or g a little bit he said go and do you have any question right
right away
then vincent sand regular she says yes and his students is of she what do we do when there's no teacher

and i gotta get she said
when there's no a teacher please keep her warm spot in your art for the teacher
really that ones that in your heart because the teacher that's richard down and say learn chances in your one hike the spot in your had it's open
needs receives
sensory experience senses thoughts feelings
and receives and knows

after and the t whatever and
the richer leslie worked and tiger you back to his room i said forgive her she
and since there's no teacher here at gringotts what what should i call myself
and he said a teacher

we don't just learn from in know teachers will now with them a one ip learn from the students remained for my children
a man fell in your parents
the line from my friends we learn from my mistakes we didn't sakes
so in this respect you know civic years he said if whatever happens
can i think it's good him i think it's bad steady can't really see what you can find out
we had the idea that there's some teaching and if regard to teaching family we wouldn't be making huge mistakes
i wouldn't you know be upset we wouldn't be scared we wouldn't be frustrated with britain get depressed ruin because we have the right teaching
said true
when we believe that's true then we make yourself while
it's because i did something wrong is paying for thing happened
a painful things to happen right he is not about right along

al one year and i started a cooking course at tassajara
i had a median and mining
i said i'm really scared and worried anxious
all my notes as in some cards adding another road covered with white sheets i had to move this morning i don't know them and outside
and am i'm very anxious and there was a woman sitting next to me
and before i knew what had happened she grabbed my wrist and she pulled my hand write it between breasts
a
i did my head i'm doing there
and nc well as he was pulling my hand and she said oh are you anxious i'm anxious to i bet we all are
and then i noticed take from them center found in a high resist eating away rather than that by you might your heart as big where you are anxious and then a be relaxed
a share is still like friend fifteen years now
advanced
and an island lot for sharing
i learned that from sharing against our heads
connected
sharing and for many years was a nurse for the armrest in boston
she went to an she had about a hundred and twenty clients did she
was trying to say each week
and someone got to be her client if they refuse to come into shelter and if they had a life-threatening illness
aids aids tuberculosis had a conditions
and she knew where most of them hung out
she knew lot of the street people and lasting
retro grandmother's shouldn't say we can get it off ramp and will be somebody standing with the side
no
the would say it and work for food or something
accepting donations and a know what sounds sunset insurance or death jci manning is unheralded i don't give him a
since say knew everybody and she talks to everybody
and one time she told me a story city it's like a swarm hag
she had a and whenever clients was named richard
in one day she got a phone call richard has been taken to the emergency room
and she knew that richard energy didn't do well around people
the richard would be scared
serves you right away and went to the emergency room
and richard by that point was strapped down on a gurney and facedown
and he'd been and yelling obscenities at the hospital staff
and so then they strapped him down and the gaining face ten he was still trying to yell obscenities living its faces i asked him to the gagne
and sharing went over jan
there was a little curtain she said hey by the and the court as she pulled the curtain she got a chair she said i had no idea what to do i just didn't have a clue
and she said she sat down and then added she found your hand reaching a shooting a small of his back
and then she said richard it's me sharing
and i'm going to rob you back now
and she's turned her up in his bag and after two three minutes richard had quieted down and instead shang
i just so nice
thank you
and sharon said richard i will stay here as long as you need me give me a favor there
and don't yell or strain cause if you do they are going to hurt you
and about that time
there is little space in the curtain and she heard these nurses saying to each other did you say that she was catching that trend that dirty old man that filthy man she's catching him can you believe it

aber friends from started

can have all these people in the world in her
and it's
in several times like an mc touch sunlight and certainly with our awareness
like sharing reaching out to touch her friends back with your wang as you reach out to touch
someone who said
as someone who scared someone who's angry seven has inspired seven years enjoying selling his com hizbullah plant
and whatever you know arises in which you're around your suit edge
if we don't know and know who is the teacher who is the student
my dry and my a get to me to tell the emotions that are happening to me how to behave are they here to teach me how to behave who is the teacher
he knows science now is realizing that people had gone and the notions don't know what to do people have been injured
and i'm unable to feel emotions
and they don't know what to do
you can give them a rest they stand to be i know
it's very confusing and ten and nurses so the question is which ones
do you do how do you how do you do them what should you do
and certain semi pleasant in summer unpleasant

by the way you know and of years later i was in cleveland
ohio
i was that a cooking class
they said oh we had wonderful tomatoes
farmers market really fresh and i got down the tomatoes were orange
and hygge
feeling that red and ripe and juicy
and there's other things that i had asked to have their were not there
so i started my class i said at a very anxious and nervous about how can nab third i like it isn't all here
and then right away a woman said add you have been meditating for more than thirty years why are you still anxious and nervous
what's wrong with you
ah
thank you for your support your understanding
i haven't seen her since and don't know her name
whenever i'm in boston scared stared was has
she had six cats for husband has seven
they live on a hillside with words and they're feral cats and they take them in the ones they don't take in a field outside
and after hurricane katrina in new orleans shang an event ban rent a new readings to save pets
this been to meet their
a ipads it had been left behind

i will tell you another kind of story
all of this
maybe you know i'm alice miller he prayed a prayer maybe she say you know psychologist psychotherapist i think she swears to seven and and she's written many books
about childhood
how much dance or reflect your childhood

an and then
don't know how much you're gonna try to take that alice waters but you know she says partner by
and
but many people don't believe this that enchanted have something to do with your details
and there's so many ways to understand is that and
she says one of the reasons that and is to protect the innocents in your pants it isn't there prob
get so if you were punished as a child you you must have been a difficult challenge and they were only punishing me for my younger it
so we believe this can
indefinitely

my next door neighbor on the other hand is apparent in issues is growing again help a your kids up saved now for the therapy later

but my favorite alice military is
about one of her clients
ah told her that she knew and she was going with the week and the client is going away for the weekend and she had a three year old son named daniel

and and air and the mother's mother had offered to take care of the grandson
serg another tick paralysis is a little worried because she knew that her mother is very big on manners
you need to this issue dead since how you do it
and and she was worried then what would happen with her son over the weekend with grandma
rather she founded as a system is to be okay
so she went to pick up her sound attend the weekend and he said i don't want to see grandmother anymore she heard me
and it is very upset
another banana see i've got the story had of him
talk to him other end so the first night and everything was going well and the grandmother had made a cottage cheese souffle registered
it was daniel's favorite
so when he finished his serving and deserved he reached out to help himself to similar which is something that he was allowed to do at his own house
the grandmother put your hand and innocence she said you have to ask the others get it's okay
dang and looked around
and said where are the others to

chad they i've said
and and then after a while and the grandmother said it's good manners
and and daniel said well what do i need good manners for
and ganguly said you need good manners said that other people will like you
am and he was inconsolable he just did not understand all this
what can be quite a while
said that's the story it's pretty simple
what's interesting to me about the story is when i tell this story some people say that's right you have to teach kids good manners you know today there's a lot of kids they don't have any manage at all and their parents should have been teaching them
and then other people say
yeah at three year old i understand that
said some people identify right away with grandmother
you need to learn good manners and other people identify with daniel where are the others is excluded i don't get it and helped me out here
and at one time at gringotts
i told the story
people have this
some people the grandmother yes another people new daniel
and
i wasn't and that in your energy this is the to demons
fears the grandmother and as the dance and real friends from the aesthetic but for the time being you need to work for yeah but you have to
i don't understand people's otherwise people won't like here
they don't like me oh
so and then there's one on one woman said
the while she was sitting it was a cold day and some of the people in the notational i had on down jackets
see every time they made against
eh
check ah
she said i wanted to tell them to behave
not tempted pitted like that said wouldn't be ninety
and then she said i noticed is that when i was trying to correct them i felt claustrophobic
when i wanted to crack them i felt
i'm in a small space
so then i decided maybe i can treat this like another train in a foreign land and i don't know the language and which people have unusual customs for i'm not used to
she said i became quite happy
it wasn't up to me to tell them to behave differently

so grandmother three year old
are they going to be demons
and fighting are they going to be friends and remember their friends will stay
and who needs to learn from who
and you know who is the teacher and who isn't student

you know bobby there's things that the grandmother can learn about in appreciating
a young person's by telling the and in hands snoop around and
oh
delight in food
from something about time in your
is it a good time to say something know how am i that's a administer and maybe this is a good time he just enjoys this
and sometime in again you will need to learn can use some manners
three years old may be
a little young lad something yards now is not taxing food the kitchener
sometimes you know there's so much stress and nails because parents are
watching for the next mistake to
and then every snag
have you enjoy your food
so we all have a grandmother personal
we all have a three year old
so after i read this tray like out as another
i've found another story

i know i'm a woman in california and she does a very interesting class that takes nine months
and class making in a more or less a life-size figure
they called dolls
you take nine months
with face is made out of porcelain clay the hand with feet or play
some people now right from the start
who they are making
somebody in their life
synonym for a long time the class was only for women
i'm during the course of the year and
you made a three hours a week one afternoon in three hours and you work on the grand and you'll also night or write a letter to your father meant that to actually sending but rather than a j father telling him all the things that you never told him
whether it's how you love him or how your hate him or you know what did he do that you've never talked about
are you i let a gym mother
so it's in english in a dense called process where you in the course of making your job you'd you are engaged in various exercises to come to send deeper understanding of a relationship with your parents and with life and surprise
andor
there's the faces porcelain and then there's a body structure
oh with our wood wooden dowels
and then you put inside objects for the chakras
have you choosing
then there's a cotton bedding and you so on a scam and rustling
when you find
close to dress it

and then at the end of this a nine months there's the show
at cassandra the woman's name is the teacher used to have a class a afternoon so then maybe there's ten or twelve people in each class and then for the serbian knows that might be picked your sixty dogs his life says figures some of them iron in your sins and there's
in a chair
and and one of the years i went
there was an there was a gal that was
i'm an elderly woman
and then there's a little story by each doll
and mister he said when i was eight i asked my parents
about my grandmothers and grandfathers and
and they told me that my grandparents had all died in the holocaust
and i doubt she said
not ever known my grandparents i job how different it was all the other children seem to have grandparents except for me
and i started wishing
at eight years old
i wanted to know my grandparents

and so is making your style and then when the dollars i didn't know
who i was it
wrestling on the other women in my grouped the dead right down and said that tab looks like it could be your grandmother
and she said i realized my grandmother had been envy all along

i realized my grandmother had been in side me all along

i listen to nature of in our hearts
and the grandmother has something to learn from the children you know about
the older one is something to learn about play
in separates the densely awesome innocence vitality creativity are having fun
and child needs grandmother with it to take his hand and say let's go here let's go near you need to this right into that they need to get along
it led out the other

our tame the other one

and it's so and you know i i am
i noticed by myself and i noticed other people you know and none of us we don't
we don't you know none of us with accused children at it that nervous i misbehaving
you know we may not it's not like we purposely is behaved sometimes parents say about children i want my son his eyes trying to push my buttons
when do kids know about buttons
he just became the best you know how

and what you look for you'll get more
so if you're looking for misbehavior uk keep in it
if you're looking for good intention you'll keep finding it
so a when the energy in a boy hits his sister because she took his story
you know the usual ordinary mind is johnny don't hit your sister what's wrong with you stop at
when it's johnny lankan this and sometimes mom lives they hit johnny johnny don't hit your sister
so if anybody's going gonna learn anything here helps if the parents learned something first
it's the parents are supposed to be the parents the older one is preston or something
so it helps if you know the parent can say johnny it looks like you're upset because your sister he wanted to let your sister know that you were upset that she took your time
wish you feel let somebody know that
that's so that's it
the one let you want to communicates on the something or case that's not the way to do it
let me talk about you know giving you a new scale
when we know that when we have better skills than we start to behave differently and we can learn skills
in there are many different places we learn skills

in many places in many ways

add this is where and
you know in and sanders and saying virtue were saying that you look for virtue in others
not just finding fault
he looked for the virtue in the food
and the virtue is something that isn't just an
you know there's a virtue in
and
organically grown carefully produced in a produce
there's that kind of virtue and then
and there's the virtue of is something gain what it is
as you know in my book and radishes from one of those things
you look at a radish and it's it doesn't go like oh gosh what's wrong with a rock and and a big and purple like an england fan cash i'm just a radish time
bonuses are very happy to be manages
especially when you get them for a spin
and so hackers and radishes
and then is so friendly you know round and round
shiny
and they're willing to you know after themselves

and you know remitting things we can own a day with things
and then are entered the best
and it is important to make an effort to
you'll find good food for yourself and your family i'm very fortunate to live in california
i live two or three blocks from organic natural food store
they give me five cents for every bag i bring back to reuse

and it's not whole foods are living foods are some big chain it's a local story that's been there for three time periods will stand now
so i'm very fortunate distance you know a few tourists from my house

and when i also am you know why not each of us are not always
tip top
energy and engage the handsome
no
bright shining enlightened brilliant staring in
yes and then me explain these things to do we not always like that sometimes you might feel like a little piece of a little piece of jail practically nothing but will you do then
then tuesday you little idiot
can it together
grow up get over it
i've had people tell me that
can care i am trying to play
oh this poor little nothing
and take this poor they're napping into my heart people can get over it
so we have and listens and and i probably need disturb thank you
and that in and that goggins and strips to the kirby says do not complain about the quality or the quantity of ingredients work with white you're given so you know he's in a different situation here we have choice and we're going out and
and getting the food for asap so it's appeared the monastery
it's just what is given
woocommerce work with it
don't complain and he says you can make a good sip with wild grasses
as good as a soup with fine crane
don't complain work with it used the ingredients that you have
and ingredients is currently the food and i try to get food here you know and that wow we got some fabulous nectar angel
cherries oh wonderful
and am but you know the ingredients is the food ingredients as as the your own kinnear said i'm tired and i want to do this and you said how we can do it will do it three cats and energy
so i'm checking and wet ingredients to a half part of that is how much energy is there the roof how much how much work your way up for how much time do we have
why do we you know web
and we're so we keep trying to use the ingredients which is also our own interest or willingness or passion and in sundays we just something simple some games we do something more elaborate
and then we offer what we have to offer
and sometimes it's pretty good at a time gets mad
they'll also as a long you know how as is and student received what's offered a standard letters given to
and appreciate and or the in the work it's gone into it and the something it's gone into things are enchanted to work in many people the are of other parts of life
and then something's to experience and things down
and everything won't be a masterpiece

the usual idea of the ordinary idea in a cooking is you get a book that will teach you how to produce masterpieces like the famous restaurant
happy advisor shouldn't bother cooking
if you not can make a masterpiece
right
so i trading in a give permission
do something sincerely wholeheartedly offer it to others whether it's a masterpiece or not said you know sit down at the table and giant had a good time is it
and young and don't add traded it's daniel
hopefully by age it or nicknamed
pepe time some places to teach danielson news
in the meantime are a wet blanket little energy and innocence

can't thank you