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an evening
know
last time i asked everyone to it
any a thing any precepts that you think will be helpful
in our practice
a minor precepts
ah the precepts purpose of is to help us to guide us in some way and a to free us
so that we don't make a lot of mistakes
and ah sometimes a precepts will go against our desire
and that's my precepts an important too
ah jackass give us a check on our behavior with others and with
ah
material things not just each other for ourself for each other and for material things as well
so
i'm gonna read to you the sick the temperate this the that the term a clear mind precepts which we call clear mind
really they come prohibitory
but am
ah i discovered
clear my precepts which i like a lot better than prohibitory precepts
because prohibitory precepts that like finger shaking
ah an i
so the two sides and precepts one is positive and the other is negative
oh so negative precepts
and don't do this don't do that positive precepts are do this do that
and so we combine them with them
a clear mind precepts is the combination of avoid this and do that where they don't do this or don't do to avoid stepping into dog poop
i'm
ha and then
i think that precept
the positive side is to take a plastic bag with you
clean it up
a
oh so this is a ten clear mind presents
i resolved not to kill
but to cherish our life
i resolved not to steal or take was not given but to honor the gift not yet given
i resolved not to misuse sexuality but to remain faithful in relationships i resolved not to lie but to communicate the truth
i resolved not to sell or use the white of delusion
i'm sorry the wine reduction delusion but to polish clarity
i resolved not to dwell on the mistakes of others but to create wisdom from ignorance didn't have to mark on down but we can give you copies
i resolved not to withhold spiritual and material aid but to share understanding giving freely of self i resolved not to have her ill will but to dwell and equanimity
i resolved not to abuse the three treasures
they also disparage for abuse
i'm respecting the buddha unfolding the dharma and nourishing the fire
so these are the sixteen of which m
that kind of a reduction of the
a even reduction very different from the two hundred and fifty precepts of of the jamaica or the bodhisattva precepts
so as we know in in a a
china and and especially in japan
i'm
the the pressure machine modified more and more until in japan
most all the schools
decided under sixteen precepts which are the three treasures buddha dharma sangha the three pure precepts
avoid evil do it is good and de your like to dealing to am helping others physically
so those are the sixteen ten clear mind precepts and and six them of the others so pure precepts a kind of
heading
don't do evil
avoiding go
do it is good which is the opposite for visit kind of
dualistic precepts
come to this do that is not good that's good
but the higher so-called
ah
understanding and precepts is beyond good and bad and right and wrong which doesn't mean that we avoid or don't pay attention to what is right and wrong good or bad
but there's also a higher understanding which is higher in the sense that it's
beyond our
understanding and beyond our ability to do change
got things are just what they are
so on
ah
you know when suzuki roshi was talking about precepts
am
and his understanding a precepts is
the pieces come from inside nat from outside
and that are and
our understanding and our activity or actions should come from surgeon
so we play version and not a sin but this is sort of school understanding prison and in the forefront earth as the basis and of from am
this understanding for reserves in
ah the the precepts will come forth from within us as a own request resident something imposed on us but on the other hand are so that's one side bernier ahead it doesn't mean we shouldn't neglect the precepts that a written down from outside
so ah the precepts the that we follow
from so-called outside remind us of our precepts from inside
no understand up and if you do
so
we have a lot of them so this is a major precepts that i just read the sixteen percent puzzle major and we actually don't have my your precepts
you know in china
the chinese bodhisattva precepts are the these ten
plus forty eight minor precepts
which are
eh
more more
oh
particular to situations
but my particular to a very affiliations
i'm so ah
well i would i've actually asked us to do is to think about what would be relevant
in this practice
as a minor precept which is for a particular situation that necessarily but
it depends you know the various levels of minor precepts some are more major issue and pepper or binaries so
a lot of the minor precepts
historically lived in india was a on a stupor or the grass or some other which is very particular and a really about a particular behavior so
i'm gonna read it just a couple of things a couple of minor precepts which i wrote some time ago and to get some idea of wood and
i'm thinking about

i'm a
oh a lot of my minor precepts about behavior during the attack
and about expressing your own ideas
i'm taking over and and a
aggrandizing your own i know so i wrote several about that
but i'm not gonna talk about those right down
i'm
here's one
don't use excuses
like when as to do something i'm not good at that or that's not the way i am you know that one
but but never be good
so don't use that as don't use these excuses like i'm not good at that are just as to ham in zen practice you know we'd give you things to do that you're not good at purposely
for that you don't like
to give you an an obstacle
tier two are egotistical to behavior the purpose of zen practice
is to get beyond egotistical behavior

so on
another one is a take correction without excuses or backbiting
and they didn't death
i'm and allow yourself to be moved by others
sometimes we will a resistance if someone has given her the own ah
position of
directing others to allow yourself to be directed
i will one time you are doing some sanding a the other earn
the trim
the bathroom
and when you sand paper he goes green
you never that
you go with a grain bread and so there was really going gets the green i said don't do it that way you go with a grin she said don't tell me what to do
i know what i'm doing
i did not check her out
she left onto it
so here's here's a very good run it is difficult for someone over fifty to receive correction
but that's no excuse
oh and then practice not getting not letting your mind get ahead of your body or vice versa
no sometimes was thinking thinking thinking and we don't pay attention to our body at all
can we just kind of go we think we know what we're doing but we're not paying attention to them are fit our thinking at our body as well
so that that's a very good
necessary
am

and so positive on his practice returning to calm mind
over and over again
that's scary that's practice exam at all times
and then the practice of which is really hard and letting go of resentments
resentments can really control controllers and they come up and record caught in the first thing as well
me resent certain a
something that am grubs of the right way and it was somebody dead and we don't like it
is that resentment of come up and so when something comes up
it comes up
we can't help it anger arises resentment arises various things arise
but then to actually see the red to to acknowledge the resentment and say is this beneficial
what will this lead to what what what carmo this resentment lead to
and when were we can't let go of it than were than the resentment is leading us and soviet were not free so this is an example of freedom freedom from it's ridiculous used to track by the summer time we are
people say his people think that you doing what everyone is freedom but actually doing whatever you want to create karma and one's kind of another real freedom means to be free from not free to do necessarily
to be free from resentments that as an example to be free from my anger
then we can actually use anger and i can have positive way the bay
and don't show a half another good one
don't treat people in them subservient manner
have you have a position
i'm authority
sometimes you know a person has the position of authority and they treat those people who have more authority very nicely but they tradespeople people under them very badly
this can be a problem
and the practice that he goes and need to control
so
this is some minor precepts
courtesy with their major minor but they're minor because they're not
universal
so did anybody
right i need is prefer any precept
oh you did
down
this active because my mind
he every meal finally yes
a man seven one s if you are hurting someone
be careful and only for their benefit and operators yes
the that's already a a precept
that's okay
the am
yeah for the threat you don't correct somebody in order to criticize them or job i get something off your chest
ah order make yourself feel superior that's draw comic
those are all actions which create
comic suffering for
the person who is doing that
we don't know how we don't realize how we create our own separate that we think that were doing something that makes us feel good but actually in the end of death we get taught by it
so bad people you didn't do any of okay
not to speak until the other person has finished speaking the earth
that's a get when we all make that mistake
a very common
i can have your holiday yeah history of you are fixed you have someone
yeah view but it at him during his time here
well that that's yeah that's called an unassuming
two yeah not not to hold a patient view but to not assume that you know who they are or what are they going to do or
ah which gives them the always given the opportunity to be too
ah to change
but not to try to make them change
yeah
a void void gawking cook gawking to stimulate desires
avoid i
a stimulant yeah let that that's a good together
fair
you know
who do if you're a man and you see people walking by do do you gotta get other men are you gawk at women
yeah so that that's very good goodwin
the to see everybody can equally
in a sense but which doesn't raise your own emotions
in the long version of it
what we want to hear a lot
off the long version is avoid gawking at the swimming pool for titillating desires business that's the one now by i cleaned it up
now that's good that's really good
what about the women gawk
a
yes notice when and how love arises yes
if and to notice when
whether you're gawking the glow or is just left
i think that's it you're talking about
he just said that reminded me of that shock up more of a shared a story of and gawking experience
is an airport bookstores and that because he hasn't great
enjoyment of books
he finds it very deep practice to be in a bookstore and practice with desires and practice with desire when my father stephen hawking so it's not you can objectify anything and you can enter into are
whatever that is green yes for noticed what what mind is horizon
that's that's definitely branches get to always notice which my reservation is a delicious burgers sandwiches
my anger rising or this this is a delusion arising it's hard to your delusion is the hardest to recognize because
so deluded you not in germany
no
the other instruments that i like to speak a little the world on the
now i'm just gonna say that i also notice the
you know there's
i can't fact is a kind of an interesting thing because like a few
if you stare at somebody even if you're driving a car make they can be annoyed side man or woman i noticed that like a noticed there's certain people that just will not
just don't like to be look that isn't so i
i'm not just from studying my stuff and like what i do have a special gang members
if you have hit a hundred and yeah
no but i also think it's also that you don't work what the environment as if you're a big city people have more fear i think where if you're in a small town like i found that is now a butch it's an interesting
then we can something i contact makes the difference site like certain people
ah if you make eye contact with them when you when you're benching by they really appreciated yeah
but not everyone
but it's not a
but not what i mean there's some people that are annoyed by it it's really i think if there's an age difference to like if you're an older man and a young younger younger woman not a girl young girl with
in care of his country so there's all these nuances of well it depends on what's in your mind
it all depends on what you're thinking because when you what you read through the eyes into your thoughts
so if you're thinking it will inner eye contact and you're thinking
an innocent thoughts
then usually you don't get bad breach response but if you're thinking some other kind of thoughts than you may get it and different kind of response
as he had all depends on what we're thinking so it's way
an examination
and we should examine what we're thinking when we do shit something like that
surgeon i have loved
laser talked a little bit ago that an experience that i've had was love rose
i was sitting on the edge of i them in front of my night table or the press as a heavy mood another servant i saw the smallest
spider ever seen in my own life but it was like his conduct interviews and said
that's what energy that's that's lie and that's the universe and i love that spider they lasted
yeah yeah so am i remember montana's in mexico and a little village jungle
and them
i was walking illusion path
and and
and i stepped on something
and it moved
as a way of moved it was like an earthquake
there was an
a snake can affect snake and it was covered with dirt in damaged and
it just it was like there was the earthquake was kind of like
i just read all through me
and you can feel that this is universal power in a universal
ah
cosmic
cosmic power because with foreign nation the first challenge is that and then you realize it's all over but it's policemen
what had said of did you
yes thank you ross i know attempt to hide you
okay
i get a lot of
oh to maintain relationships and engagement i use and instead of but
yes but depends on an but it depends on
well
but i
an appropriate origin for the appropriate that the with better than
there's something that bothers me
oh i'm traveling with them
ah

there is there are people use their is all the time for when they really mean there are you talking about more than one you talking about there are you try you by singular there is but people taxes there's
an attack muslim couple of things you know the more complex where they should be using it and people to all the time become a habit a national habit now love thinking about it
i hear that is isn't out
the pecan and i have to let that go
and retained by a quote for him and i get worried about it i get worried about for a minute then a but other one carry the the element
but there's few things i wanted to get on a show
there's few things there's she is that there are a few things yes that's a good example
so what are your body is like to lift
an eclipse know he taught you're using a theater usually makes you see on the thorough
so did anybody else really think about our stem
when i i i just bought a one where he said on the like don't be time about that
what the furniture
well
young people that have a whole different language yes there
don't fail the show up and participate for
well that's a very good
i have learned that very much like that some out like that
that is
ah don't
the you know when you use when they use
i have always late don't say i'm sorry you just sit over and over again said oh i'm sorry i did i'm sorry i'm answered and people that it's okay it's okay but it's not okay
and so you use that because because the people say it's okay you don't you just let it you just keep doing that because he can always be excused
so that they should be a a precept about that
i'm thinking that because people are excuse you that it is excusable to just keep doing it
how the minor precepts that he gave his number five is neglected to persuade others to confess their wrong doings reflect and neglecting to persuade others to confess their wrong it's not mine
i didn't you have happened i don't think everybody will now at night it's illicit that was a for the handoff for forty eight
oh
from the trump the forty eight from the bodhisattva precepts while the buddhist last of assimilation by matsunaga
sorry it is from the buddhist philosophy of assimilation by alicia matsunaga it was part of the handoff that i will he have to accuse him for like that
i don't yeah i don't act as fine is a trustee and filled with
because you said my hand out so
i'm tired i
butter and anyway
so the question that i have is a relation to i'm sorry i'm sorry it's okay it's okay we wrongdoing is kind of hard harsh kind of no accusation of some kind of minor thing of somebody being late and i'm curious about how does one green attention
to someone's habit of being way instead of saying it's okay how to
persuade them not to confess or wrongdoing could account of bring it to their attention i guess
while the different ways depending on what you think your reaction is going to be
right
so depends somebody who easily accept criticism say i thank you someone who doesn't give you all kinds of
and they don't want to deal with them because they may have a tantrum right so
you talk about someone else with that person say you know this person that person or things i would say you know what we think we should do about it
the not come up with the answer and then we should path you
i been with the one thing but if you you talk about token suggests this he said when you have a problem with somebody
go about it indirectly as if you're talking about something else
that's it you know there's not a cure all for everything but it's a suggestion of how you do how you handle
that kind of situation
talk about it with that person as if you're talking about something else and then that's plants the seed in the person
and then
cohen's on like that lets a kind of cool on can you give somebody
because then the seen as the planted and then unbeknownst to fit it grows and then the oh i got that
i've always lean and i always make excuses
i mean let them though
leslie this latter fucking in derbyshire it
yes i did
i think this is sort of like to
the way to a class with thing is so on working with other people and other person or other people have
he refrained from rearranging are doing over on restating what pages or said if it's good enough yes
so will be as you say it again
seven
doing an activity or are working with another person or other people
refraining are checking in about rearranging what they just stare are doing it over or if you're having a conversation restating what they did like how you think it should be kept what they did was enough in yes
yeah sometimes we like control yeah we like to rearrange it
i think sometimes we arrange it so we can understand it and sometimes we rearrange it in a retail m be righteous
pounds yeah
yeah for righteousness is another
i'm
a something to is it's really hard
to a correct righteousness because meeting were right
and we don't like to sing i made a mistake
right
i think we always have to be willing to say i made a mistake
ah that we didn't but sometimes if we didn't it's good to say
acknowledge this missing knowledge
a book sure to do one thing at a time
yeah i do want in your time but that that's
sounds simple but it should be a major improvement
well if that's a minor precept
help
because it's about you it's not about relationship
i'm so do one thing he can't but it but it is about the relating to
yes it's about this than to live but whether it should be minor or major that said point but if you know everything we do is done
with all kinds of help
i mean everything we do is complex it's not simple it's not what does not big but uses as an as an example you're doing one thing but the whole body the world in this one thing
right so
a brink
each each other limbs and fingers and there are parts of your body are all doing the same are all oriented toward doing with this one act so that to me that that's were doing one thing means and
but submit of all different kinds of other parts
there are many many contributing but like swim don't go like well like like swim when you're swimming and don't go
oh her
oh look at her
alexandria was next
ah
practice is my attention in a horror
in order to the elephant
sit ups faith and why
yes
oh yes that you're forced to do it
and so were lax about it you know where because we're all controls some way by our pastures are controlled by or abboud
well on our patches the control their mood you know and so her am sitting
with my back against the the chair but actually i should be sitting at this without against the back in the chair so thanks for reminding me
it called how he holed up in a we don't want to hold a bus a stiff in a way to manage like or unlike generals you know the cock of the walk as i have one precept is don't walk around like the cock of the walk
you know
general
so how did you know
pay attention to your posture at all times and at the same type be totally flexible
yeah
so that's that's that's really important
know you're slouching know i'm clutching and you're sitting up straight you know visiting yesterday
to keep reminding myself
this attention in the
yes and when you do that you know
a your relationship with any changes
he does change
yeah you and your acting from a a balanced place

mvp
yeah
don't practice the
conscious it
compassion

can be
well yeah if it's very hard to am ah
you know it it's easy to misunderstand what compassion means sometimes
slapping someone is compassionate
ah sometimes restricting somebody is compassionate
when it appears like it's not
so
sometimes but if a person is hysterical
and you slapped in that brief take them out of being
take them out
allows them to be free of them
so i think that when will be by false compassion is kind of sweetness that is not appropriate
for thinking that as compassion
creating a child a child and a candy
i love candy you know but not giving it to him is compassionate
she also mentioned
yeah idiot compassion is that he turned but
the been thinking that by bit by being giving your body with they weren't his compassion
i remember my son
links so perverse went to ireland your thing but would you know there's a stage where all they want to do is eat candy
and he said
food is not food candy is food

but it was waiting somebody up
are changing the disposition some a sudden ah
am
break as sunset movement can help because i remember one time when
oh and my son was really young he is the other kind of a breathing problem but asthmatic and so middle of the night you know when taken to children's hospital
and am
the have a couches should stop me and but and the registration
lobby and then they have these low tables next to the couch the tables are just me i so i was carrying him
and it couldn't see says okay can read of my page and so i was going up to the desk and the table at my nearly hit the table and i went over the table with care him
and we landed thumb on the floor
and
he led as a letter on top of him
and then we got up and he was cured
will at home

that they don't try to purposely fit

i had a good is do one thing at the time but i also had take doesn't mind into the world especially traffic oh interact with yeah whatever is always the big deal you know that that the cigarette anger
our frustration
ah
everything to say about that
dr cooperatively not capacity
yes you know i have a hopeful have been back this
not a make your taxi driver yeah is that you control the road
so the way you drive
everyone adjusts to you to the were you drunk driving down the street ten miles an hour you know you're stepping on the traffic and everybody has to adjust to you so you're actually controlling the road
and if you drag a real fast and breathing in and out and others people have to be very careful
if they even notice you
and you're controlling the road that way because everybody has to take their position in relation to you so we're all taking our positions in relation to everybody else and they saw this moving thing that never stops you when you get to the stop sign
so
am
ah
i would think about contract at well how would i drive
what what the other people in their coach how that relating to me
and now i'm relating to them and then you're lucky way ahead to see what's going on and looking back at you before you make a move and and it it i enjoy that
because when you're doing that it's a game can let you know it's it's a wonderful game and to i was linked to like to drive in traffic which pick most people don't
but really enjoy driving a champion because it kind of game to and and is it say and to create a harmonious
sometimes i drive really fast but it's not fast just
a quick
yeah
ah whereby a subsystem up with
i was love that a valve was or have to be greedy or not to regina the a heavier
i danced and coming out my new that a toy with high in an hour
i'm a little lower
learn what way that where's that one other
well i love that before spiritual and materially
yeah
yes it also has to do with sex
that that that precept is
ah can be construed various ways some what ways can shoot his don't be greedy
basically ah and a of those
precepts
oh about greed
stealing is about greed
sexuality is about greed
lining

i'm using a or drugs
it's a little bit about greed
is wanting something new it it's doing something because you want something
i'm
praising yourself and dog others as a kind of greed
you want something to use that you ought to be big and make everybody else smiths like donald trump
a keep becomes big were making everybody small
death real agreed
i'm
so grade the oil anger and delusion of the three
poisons
it's a different that's basically what we should be watching out for and that's basically the
them why we have precepts to make us aware of agreed to make us aware of or ill will and our delusion
how stamp process the precepts of islam less the presents and yes we're addressing the problems said the hawks yes yes is one
do not walk down the street or across the street while staring at your cell phone app
how would say if you're gonna see if you're going to use your on sit down right in the corollary is practice keeping your sofa in your pocket while walking up and that's really a good one
roja you can important there is a law against it using it while you're driving but nobody ever gets caught doing it
they have proper should be alliance walking across the city with that affect a of our darwin law
while the shit
this that he serves all time because catherine but he is
so up to be aware of how you're hooked
on this little thing in your hand
ah which also plays a part in our pastures
we can't stop doing her return chancellor because we have it
it's the amazing
we just can't let go that no i don't have one
yeah
then i'll brag about that pelleted earth who was to have an informational time
he's not a preceptor like the manitoba where we we should be available to the present moment and the credit circumstance know pretty much all the time for easter
yes so precepts aren't necessarily rules
they're not that and this is sometimes their rules but the their attitude
it's more like our attitude and our awareness and hat what i'm what what we should be aware of
and show precepts are just the way we were life unfolds and how we manage it
june
if you can't put it down giving away
you mean like spiders
well i think
egypt in a house
yeah
ah i questioned up
oh
sometimes people give me something there that i don't want to either
gives the i would say give something to peep to somebody that you really want
he does that professors the fire spin on name
yeah you have a positive spin on make no statement know
i crashed into like a layman palm in the chinese slave man who has been famous center or and the tang dynasty and he began with the enter the the equivalent of all the great body searches and so he was very erratic and so he
took all his belongings adopt him into the the lake
i'm thinking oh what is the lake think about this
that's the environmental impact
cause there's no i every understand that the the reasoning behind that but basically
ah
would he do with what you don't want
which
includes feelings perceptions metaphor
a material things you know what do you do with things
so with emotions and and met metal permissions and
they can be stopped
and they don't i mean in the the no longer grow
but it's harder with material things because
the yeah
somebody was telling me that in japan everybody likes new things
they don't really like all things there there are some
second hand stores grand and flea markets and stuff like that is true
which a nice good content but
people throw a lot of ulster boy and then they could do the grass covers it and so yeah good heavens lot i took with all this junk but dog is covered by the they could do which covers things very quickly
so it's interesting you say
how do you hide it i've had he really get rid of stuff that
causes problems for others
whenever i think that it's nice try to give somebody something if somebody gives me something and i don't and i use a privilege to have it around that i don't feel bad by giving if somebody else even though somebody gave it to me
she's happier is
no i can't emotion down in the moment so if i could put it down
ah
ah
the moment i'm having experienced the not a can't put it down and i've tried a b c america
just a put it down the sort of like saying some really anxious will just relax ranch
so it's really working with that another example of as material like i'm up late at night
being online one thing or another and i i can't put it down right yeah and still an hour is now gone by
then you get a good or better than twelve o'clock
the thing is is to just say to myself you know what it down when it up now and when i noticed is sarah like the his instruction know if you have some run hey
the near sticks up
sounds like information like day and have that talk and seven hours when we can't sleep but just sit there and tossing and turning just get up and go do something
and so it is working with that spirit so i was thinking give it away and was more like make make the world large and make the self larger to include others and then you're off me somehow you can do something for others and catching for yourself sometimes to get out of habit it's some somehow working with that
okay i just wanna see one thing
the clinical
don't put it down
go
this
well
here are some things that i have father
oh
to always lead
i'm an older person
then speaking and going through a door in ealing m at ah
answering people's questions imprisoned views go first
we don't another item to consider myself also for him to think about it with me back
what's the problem over the down
that is the problem
ah
but am
i don't add on to a speakers statements or answer for answers to people without asking first or at least thinking about what effect that might have
let me try don't add to the speakers statements but in of for the dirt
without thinking well what when effect with his hand on the speaker in a people around you and don't interrupt in the middle of a conversation between two people to present your own view
i keep your talking to somebody and you're having and then you walk in and than a new present your own view we've totally interrupt their conversation
and don't take the conversation away from when when you're when you're doing this when when you come a product like you're outside you know only and people have encourages and you woke up and then you can route and inject your own you and then
a walk away with one of the people

and harry and have and it becomes your conversation with one of the evil
so ammunition thoughtlessness in earth it's something
also
ah
it's okay to let the speaker the it is okay to let the speaker leave something unexplained without following the urge to fill it in order to clarify it
but what he really means is
i think at least twice before offering your unasked approval when told a went out
what someone is doing
no the roof
oh i think that's good or i approve or something again
ah that's a little obscure
let's see what other want to go there that's
so think twice before clarifying the speaker's presentation during the lecture
i think twice about giving a mini lecture when someone else is giving a presentation
so
this site
the speakers giving a presentation and then somewhere else does
question as if as if you're asking a question but actually you're giving your own talk and then it you talk to each other
the audience and and instead up to the speaker so if you're going to make a present issue if you're going to add something like a like for a lecture to the lecture
at least do it till the speaker
instead it or the audience because he returned to the speaker than you're having a conversation you're dreading it from the sort to the source but when you turn right and then you talk to the audience you're taking it away from the speaker and
to continue it as your own
that you understand that
these are all about self centeredness an ego and wanting to be
sometimes it's ok to add something you know that you can see that the speaker has forgotten something or a doesn't understand with the question was or suddenly i saw sometimes it's ok to do that but ah
ah
give your own mini lecture defects in own
demeaning actually to the speaker
so am
think twice about making yourself the center of attention
which
and think twice about dominating the conversation
and think twice about overstepping your boundaries
don't boast
try not to spend more time than anyone else detailing or indulging your feelings during a check-in
people will run they say something you know about with a theater how they're feeling and then it comes to the person that came along like indulging about my feelings and my thoughts and maintenance says overstepping your boundaries and am dot dominating
and then
don't walk around in with an imperious attitude like i'm sure buddy
and try not to practice one upmanship or repress others with your knowledge or show or or with whom you nuts and to or who don't try to brag threatened out to practice one upmanship or two
impress others with your knowledge or whom you know
like it cut name dropping
and be careful not to use information as the way to exercise power
you know people have a and over and are privy to information can and people want to know something and so you dole it out a little bit of the time so that you control the situation
and you're controlling
yeah people and then it gives you some kind of power and that's very common
ah
and i try to be unassuming and they recovered down
and don't assume that you're the first one to hear about something when making an announcement is if ah
you have some special privilege because you heard about something first
and be a beam be aware of when strong emotions arise and don't use them to fuel a dominant position
on
we call it a charge your you know your presentation as a charge
so ibm
practice letting go of the need to have the last word order some up i think we can be dealt with that little bit
but i'm a little different and practice that always not not having to always be first but being laughed or in the middle
letting others take the lead
and a practice letting go of the need to control
ah that's interesting when you don't try to control things do you usually have a lot of control
the a practice humility and don't treat people in a subservient manner
don't show off
practice letting go of resentments
practice returning to calm mind
so practice renunciation
but as renunciation it means dropping your ego
really has number should do it material things even though people thinking that they have nothing is pronunciation that's true we don't have no matter how much we have we have nothing
i'm

so i had some controversial one here
treat everyone as your senior
no phone
don't present a teaching as if she just thought it up
when the person you have heard it from is there

said let's stimulate you do you got something
the
board
yeah
i always be respectful
ah of other is not just a light touch of like just not just like on that a genuinely respect of others not just polite yes especially like
the
sebelius enough always be respectful of others but the always be genuinely respectful of others not just like especially when you're irritating to you or your anger
a poet can be
i'm respectful then it can also be a cover
in a thin you know that i said not just a thin layer for nothing underneath grumbling road
no
john just to say thank you so very much
this kid my dad we often that obviously say the biggest thing i hear feel night the greenhouse a beat your compassion renounced the first thing comes when for it when i'm taking way i guess my own personal effects at model we listen to here
renounce following your first instinct whatever made me a good mind going wrong
to be impulsive
be careful a bit of being impulsive
yes
at that's really good
i'm
ah

i had to step back and be thought all
and oh
you know we we have a precept
for a meetings
and it's
that everyone speak it's good if we speak last are you know that everyone speak with and then see what you have to say sometimes we think that if if i don't know if i do that i forget what it is i want to say so
really people have their and true but time he gets to use it i can't remember when it was i went to say but if you went down the remember but if somebody else's it what you wanted to say it dammit
but you have to be able to you
someone else said it that's good i'm glad someone said it
and so how you respond to that you know is that spending that's really important is letting someone else say what you would have said
maybe not as well as he would have said it but and then
not impeding it
so this what makes meetings your mattress so long sometimes and flake
people take a little bit on what was an amazing the big story
because we have to say something because we wanna be
we are both things
third year in to that the opposite extreme
is japanese way nobody no embellished something
they let people speak and ah think sometimes you don't say anything even only want to
and ah but if they can't wait until everything's been said and maybe a contribute to that too but the impulsively that the impossibility is absent
this is not there
so that is a lot of patience in waiting for that to come we will pro waiting their turn to say something
then it's kept sometimes excruciating so that excuse for killing of when you say something and up being able to say that when you want to say it is many good practice
no the things that hinder us is what our practices
it really is the difficulties and instead we play about and know
the people complaining about this and that
as if it will return the things that company butter real
but they just made up
the really mean up and i do not real at all but we because we attached to them we mention real or seem real so you know his frustration and you know and the hardest thing is ready to be patient
really the profession and been a real sense
and oh it's very deep
oh
ah as an example of a minor example their major examples of minor examples but it's a minor example when i drive i like to get where i'm going with the least hindrance
so i'm known for like this
and hum
i'm going to be the radio that parents some music and i think you know music is going on and there's a time limit limit between here and what i'm going like
the house
and i want to be able to hear the whole thing
but i also want to get there as vs i shared so there's this dichotomy between am i going to ah
the to the end of this before get there but if i go to slow that i'm not
i'm i missing my momentum
sir
it's like when it's like doing something guess yourself
but if i if i don't try to get there fast or just gonna go with traffic and let's go ladies dr llewellyn jury not try to get by the time i get home the music ends at exactly the time i home
and this mysterious but it works that way
camera have encountered
it seems like on precepts that were tiny better how to manage ourselves our own town yeah he retains live
i'm wondering if there's a place for a group of precepts and terms of how we manage relationship i'm thinking particularly things like i mean i'm not that far about this before but
ah to not let things fester in the to a trust them before they get sick
absolutely maybe some precepts having to do with
how one conducts themselves and difficult conversation like
i mean there's obvious ones like no name-calling but more subtle than that more
sophisticated yes to that that's exactly when i'm talking about
that's how i'm trying to dry out
if
how do the home
because as as i said that's not the rules it's
the understanding how to keep yourself from getting caught and in your emotions and feelings and your thoughts
and it took to recognize your own complicity when we get angry and well we're not in it we don't think how did i cause this you think they're doing this to me but actually we play into each others
aggressiveness or
or just hurts or or whatever live with and we don't realize how we cause we say out you know like my husband is always doing this is always actually like at you know and then fishing and thinking that it's all his fault
because i'm not doing anything to to make that happen except that we are and so you're always correct or not to blame yourself but to look at what what in listening
what actions am i
the contributing that his situation how do i can l like contributing to creating a situation it's psychological that's when we all psychological beings
so i think that can be done to return the degree
so i appreciate that so we should bring us cause cancer and chairman that can stop
no other same idea of getting the people and community or i found i have specific camp reminder someone who seems to not pay attention to what you're doing frequently and you can continue to adapt just been added to net is now going in and it happens in my relationship with that
something hit me hard on the head is a result of that carelessness and yet i have found no open to address that person or anyway give the precepts and sign to address it in my answer has been kind of i'll just stay out of that circle of hazard
and it is anti community and it's sent him one try to address so that we can be together but yeah how do we do it we don't find an opening they'll appear to be
to me to my assessment of their my judgment they're ready to hear yeah well as a person is not ready to hear
it's typical

remember secure as you're saying a per person when you're when you're dealing with somebody and they're not sincere
they just ignore them
until they're ready to be something
yeah is it every situation is different than the nuances of every situation is different so general sense we can say something but ah
that doesn't you know it's the actual interaction
that makes the difference in
i have interactions with students had been here a long long time and yet
am
i've not read it here but i really have to say and ah but then that some point something shifts
an and
they are open to during something
and i can think of some students like that and it is
my by a responses patients
just you know endless pages

it was upset you don't have to like someone's behavior to wanted to be happy over the course
the you always
liking and loving and at the servants and thing
at home
ah but it's beyond liking your loving actually
and some
identification
identification busy don't abandon anybody because
ah you always have to treat everyone
like buddha
so you can abandon them even if you say go away you and you know get out here whatever it doesn't mean that your ah
i'm abandoning them
you're always ready to accept everyone
you know at the moment do not
at a bullet so this momentary
ah
add on
do it somebody in the moment with certain how
ah
conditions
but then there's the unconditional
so the conditional in the unconditional
it's a traditionally can abandoned somebody or tell don't believe or never see him again but unconditionally you always ready to embrace them
but the situation doesn't call for it
seems like that's really
what i really feel stuck you know i could serve like wow i wish i was ready
let this guy and another thing small i can so i let that go nuts
what can be done
yeah so uh you know non attachment is the is is the practice
so non-attachment doesn't mean
no responsibility
it doesn't mean
that are you don't care for think so but it means that you always have to be willing to let everything go because eventually he'll let everything go
the practice the we have is the practice of letting everything go in its time at the right time we let everything go everything is history everything this history this we live
the way in this moment the future is just an idea
the president is what is
hard to grasp because it's already history
so ah
ha
the an attachment to things
which doesn't mean that you don't care for things new but a certain point at which you
it doesn't make sense
so
ha
you know
i really
enjoy the students that had a really good feeling about everybody and you know lol lmao
concern than this but people come and people go and i never said
i never feel bad when somebody leaves and i don't always feel good
ah but i'm much happier that i don't really happy when people come and person lives that's their business you know i i'm never attach system
i never touched her student but when are here with here we are and brother full attention
farah people say can i be your student
somebody wrote me from some distant place that can i be a student ever met this person before can you accept me as your student and i don't accept anybody of my student
people just here we practice together and then and some at some point which will like and the teacher your the spirit
sometimes you just teach your neighbor student
so is it
ah
that's i like
so it's nice when people ever a long time
nobody we can enjoy each other in each other's practice including teacher practice
but i can't be attached to any anybody in that way
oh good i'm sorry to we went over